We've been thinking a lot about the concept of help. WORD is a woman owned business and in our experience, we, along with a lot of our fellow Goddess community, always seem to have a hard time asking AND accepting help. So, we are excited to launch The Thread; a series that examines how and why we do or don't ask for help. We’ve tapped into the hearts of women and asked them to share moments where they’ve asked for help, personal and professional.
We hope this series will encourage you to allow yourself to ask and receive help. Only when we truly surrender to our needs do we begin to heal and grow.
Ami Vega, Celebrity Manicurist
Ami Vega is a mother & a celebrity manicurist hailing from Washington Heights, NYC. As the child of immigrants, Ami feared potential judgement surrounding her unorthodox career choice. It wasn’t until she found the strength to seek support that she realized she wasn’t alone. Because of this realized actualization, Ami has cultivated an uber successful career creating incredible nail art for people from all over the world.
Ami’s story further proves that we can only reach our full potential when we are open, vulnerable and accepting of the tools available. Read more about Ami below:
Name: Ami Vega
Hometown: Washington Heights, NYC
Career: Celeb Manicurist
When was the first time in your life that you realized you needed help?
When I parted ways with my daughters father a month before giving birth to her. His actions made it clear to me that I’d be raising this little nugget on my own. Luckily, I have an amazing family and support system who truly helped me throughout these turbulent years of single motherhood.
Where or who did you find support from?
My family, from my amazing madre & padre, to my brother, my aunts, cousins and close friends. I tear up typing this because I don’t see how I would’ve done a third of the things I’ve done without them.
Has it been difficult to find support in your career journey?
At first yes. Being the child of immigrants who view success very different than myself, they didn’t see “doing nails” as a solid career choice to support myself and a child. It took a lot for me to ask for help, I would beat myself up a lot for even asking. Eventually I’d come out of my comfort zone and ask for help with my little one, especially when I needed to do jobs and even my first fashion week.
Share a story where you’ve felt supported.
In 2012 when I decided to attend nail school. I could only do evening classes and still work my 9-5. It was a four month course. I couldn’t find someone to watch my daughter basically all day through the night. So my parents took my daughter to the DR for the first three months, so I could go to work and school without the added stress of having my daughter on such a hectic schedule. It was extremely hard on me and the mom guilt kept me with a heavy heart. The last month my mother came to NY and watch the baby for me while I continued my last month of school. It was the turning point for my parents and their support of what i was pursuing.
What advice would you give to someone who is afraid to ask for help?
Ask! Just Ask. Especially my single parents out there. We get lost in our duties as parents and we lose ourselves. We forget about our own self care. An older man put it into perspective for me, he said; “Parenting is putting the air mask on the plane on yourself first before you put it on your child” How can we care for others if we don’t take care of ourselves first?